My fiance has anger problems. He gets so mad sometimes that he says things I know he doesn’t mean. He always comes to me later in the day and tells me he is sorry and didn’t mean what he said, but then does it again. What should I do? I love him and know he is stressed out, but I think that his behavior is very inapproraite. Is there anything I can do to help him overcome this? Has anyone been with a man who gets so upset he says things he doesn’t mean?
He does recognize his anger, after his outbursts, that’s why I haven’t left him. It’s obviously a problem he is having, one he needs help with. I don’t believe in leaving someone when they are down. I am a very strong person and his behavior isn’t effecting me yet.
Yes, I have been there. You have to let him know that you will no longer tolerate it. Tell him either he control his anger or you will not marry him and you will move on. You have to be very strong and stick to what you say. Tell him you want him to take anger management before you marry him. Chances are he like the reaction he gets. Do you start to cry or get upset like him? You should play it cool, when you see the situation getting heated. Then, tell him we can discuss this further when you can control yourself. Then totally ignore him and take a shower or start reading a book. I start doing this and my boyfriend would feel like such an idiot til he started trying to play it cool like me which what you want right. Also, pick and choose your battle. If he still overreacts, you may need to end this relationship because its unhealthy. If he loves you he will be willing to make a change.
My fiance has anger issues!! HELP!?
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:00 am
I suggest to leave him. Anger issues early on relationship will lead on to much worse things in the future. Please think of yourself in the future and the well-fare of your future children/present children if you will have any/ have any.
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:29 am
No I havent but be careful those are the abusive ones
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:43 am
Does he recognize his anger? Hon, unless he’s willing to go into anger management, I’d leave. I know it’s hard, but he might just get violent one day -and wow, you are married and have kids – that would not be good. Don’t put yourself there. YOu can still control things now! Good luck!
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:51 am
sorry, but If I was you, I would run away until he went to counceling and then I would think twice,
you cant take back hurt or wrongs just by saying " I am sorry"
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February 25th, 2010 at 6:03 am
I have dated a guy just like this, and after two years of him saying he is sorry, he wont do it again, yadda yadda. I threw him out and told him when he got help and changed I would take him back IF I was available.
Today I am very happy with my new man, two years and still strong. Never again would I put up with someone talking/treating me like sh*t no matter how sorry you are!
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February 25th, 2010 at 6:35 am
my dad used to do that. he would calle me a lot of mean names. later or when he sees that i am crying, he says he is sorry, and he dosen’t mean the things he said, and tell me that he loves me. i fianay told my mom, and she had a talk with him and convinced him to stop because it was hurting my feelings. don’t worry. all you have to do is tell him and make him realize how bad he is hurting your feelings.
good luck
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February 25th, 2010 at 6:45 am
Yes, I have been there. You have to let him know that you will no longer tolerate it. Tell him either he control his anger or you will not marry him and you will move on. You have to be very strong and stick to what you say. Tell him you want him to take anger management before you marry him. Chances are he like the reaction he gets. Do you start to cry or get upset like him? You should play it cool, when you see the situation getting heated. Then, tell him we can discuss this further when you can control yourself. Then totally ignore him and take a shower or start reading a book. I start doing this and my boyfriend would feel like such an idiot til he started trying to play it cool like me which what you want right. Also, pick and choose your battle. If he still overreacts, you may need to end this relationship because its unhealthy. If he loves you he will be willing to make a change.
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