I really hate this one girl who has major attitude problems whom I know talks about me behind my back, she never ever says hello to me, I start my shift after her and always feel awkward when I dont say hello to her.
How to overcome the anger and the awkwardness of this situation?
You have already uncovered the reason for your anger, which is important. You are angry because you feel she gossips about you behind your back.
Anger can be used to create change that is positive, if you focus on what you can do to change the situation. You can try several approaches:
You can say "hi" to her.
You can confront her about the gossip.
You can continue to ignore her.
I would go with the step that brings resolve to my anger. Envision yourself having done each and imagine which makes you feel the most at peace.
September 22nd, 2009 at 1:47 pm
You may never ever get over your anger for her, but the difference is, is that you can control your anger. If you pass her at shift change, just say "hey"… You should be the "bigger" person, because I guarantee you that it doesn’t bother her one bit whether you like her or not.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 2:23 pm
By talking to her on on one about your feelings, if you are bothered by her talking behind your back and you have proof of it don’t just assume that she does , you could ask her what is the problem , there are times when a person doesn’t seem friendly, but when ou really get to know them they are the nicest people !
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September 22nd, 2009 at 2:42 pm
don’t give an ear to it. just be more kind to her, no matter wat she does behind your back.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 2:55 pm
If this person affects you getting your job assignments done, you should confront her and let her know how awkward you feel. Believe me, it won’t just go away. I had to do this with a former coworker, because no one would confront her explosive behavior (even the boss) and when she accused me one day I asked my boss to arrange a meeting with us there (as a witness) and I explained to her that I was there to do my job and her attitude was affecting the whole office. We got along fine after that and a mutual respect was born that day. We can’t make people change, but at least if you bring it to the open, it may cause them to self evaluate their relationship with others. I didn’t go in like I was perfect, I have a work philosophy whereby I treat others as I would want to be treated and keep it professional. (I worked at ODU satellite school at the time) Hope this helps!
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Life, we all experience this kind of stuff.
September 22nd, 2009 at 3:25 pm
All you have to do is remember that if she is talking trash about you behind your back, than she, is trash herself. People with attitudes tend to lead an unhappy life. People that pass judgment and feel the need to share such judgment with others are usually very self conscious about themselves. Every time you see her, think of this and your smile will come naturally. Only you will know that your are smiling do to her lack of happiness with herself and her bad spirit in general. Take the high road, be the bigger person, and karma will do its thing. Besides, who cares what she thinks and says? Hate takes to much energy, especially when its geared at someone whom you don’t need or want in your life.
OR the next time you see her, as you are passing by, you can just tell her she has a big snot hanging out of her nose.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 3:30 pm
Try to think of thet girl as a lost person in over her head, just crying out, but putting up a defensive offensive front. She most likely is, and is weary of criticism she probably recieved as a child. Her parents were most likely uncaring critical and fault-finding. It may help to understand her better, and the Lord would be pleased if you prayed for her, do it and don’t give up on her, with a little patience much is gained, and friends are made. Often I have seen those that fought,become good friends after they got it out of their system when the fight ended.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 4:03 pm
Just smile sweetly and say "hello", and leave it at that.. don’t give her anything to play with… the best way to get under her skin, is to be sweet and ignore her the rest of the time.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 4:26 pm
Ignore her. Some people mistake kindness for stupidity.
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September 22nd, 2009 at 4:43 pm
You can’t. I had the same ting at a previous job and no matter how hard I tried or how many times I smiled and said hello or good morning, she never once responded or even looked at me, but walked right by where I was sitting and immediately got all animated and chummy with her little clique gal pals. I eventually quit due to the toxic atmosphere. (All women)
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September 22nd, 2009 at 5:30 pm
You have already uncovered the reason for your anger, which is important. You are angry because you feel she gossips about you behind your back.
Anger can be used to create change that is positive, if you focus on what you can do to change the situation. You can try several approaches:
You can say "hi" to her.
You can confront her about the gossip.
You can continue to ignore her.
I would go with the step that brings resolve to my anger. Envision yourself having done each and imagine which makes you feel the most at peace.
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http://www.ehow.com/how_2284994_handle-anger.html