Anger Problems ?

My dad seems to have anger problems since always. When there’s much tension he just can’t bear it. He works a lot, is somewhat strict, very bossy, talks loud, and says what he thinks to anyone, any place, any time. He also loves to tease people, and hates when they do tease him. He also complains about everything. Like one day my mom was in the kitchen and let a glass fall and break, and he started to say she must be careful, be more focused and bla bla bla, like if breaking a glass in a kitchen was a big deal. He keeps pointing and arguing about everyone’s mistakes, but doesn’t like people to do the same to him. There’s constant tension in our family, since my brother is very rebel and my mother is hypochondriac, so they’re constantly arguing. My sister also likes to tease my mother a lot. This creates lots of tension inside the house, which sometimes causes my dad to reach a breaking point and explode – he starts throwing and kicking everything at hand before leaving the house for a while or just go to his bedroom. Can’t say it happens a lot, but he always had these occasional problems. Like when I was little he kicked and broke my console because I was fighting with my brother because of a silly video game (although he gets angry at these situations, he doesn’t explode jsut because of this, se he must have had a real bad day). We were just kids. It since happened every so rare to often, until it happened recently again, because of my mom and brother were arguing. Fortunately, he never beat anyone, he can at least control himself to direct his anger toward objects instead of us. But we all have some constant fear of these situations and fear he may lose totally his control. Therefore, we all have a lot of respect of him. He can’t seem to handle tense situations by conversation, so he explodes in anger. He aknowledges his situation, and even threatens with his trait sometimes, but never refers to it directly nor talks about what happened. He still has a kind side, though, sometimes even treating me like I was still a kid. I don’t know if he needs some psychological help, we never talked to him about it and personally can’t see him in psychiatrist, or talking to us about his problem. Is there anything possible to do to help my dad and what to do when it happens?

Your dad sounds like my dad. He is a Type A personality. These type people are
very difficult to live with and work with. Most males who have this type personality
have very short fuses. Therapy can help but most TA people don’t think they have
a problem. All you can do is try and be understanding and disappear whenever
your dad starts to rant. How he treats your mother on the other hand is wrong and
he is setting a bad example for his children. This is up to your mother to deal with.
She needs to speak up for herself. You could talk with your mother quietly when your
dad isn’t around and let her know how he makes you feel when he does and says
mean things to her. Just don’t turn out to be like him and support your mother.

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