what can i do to help my child that is 11 yr with anger problems……what helped for you…..i havealways just asked parents but want a adolescents opinion…..did counseling help you?……..why did you think it was ok to behave this way?
when did you realize that you were only hurting yourself
I’m not an adolescent but am in the same situation with my 14 yr. old stepson…who has ADHD…and anger problems as well.
His ADHD is pretty much controlled with Concerta. He takes 27 mg. once a day. This helps with his attention. He can concentrate on things, that on any normal day, would not have his attention for more than a few minutes. It has helped a little with his behavior in school as well. He still has the little quirks of sticking a pencil in his ear or eye, bouncing his legs and even daydreaming. But they’re fewer times a day since he’s taking medicine. We’ve had problems in school before the medication and he even got expelled for 3 days. He still doesn’t focus like he should but he’s getting there. He goes back to the Dr. next week and she will up his dose to see if that helps.
The anger issue is separate. It’s a puberty thing. Your childs’ hormones are totally out of whack. Their mind is still thinking along that of a child but their body is changing and they have no control over it. My stepson has his anger fits two or three times a day. It drives me crazy! You can control his anger by doing one thing…when he gets angry or wants to argue…just walk away. It irritates the hell out of them because it takes the one thing away that gives them satisfaction. It takes you out of a stressful situation. They can’t argue if you’re not there.
Pick and choose your battles with your child. The ones that you can sense are just going to end up in a senseless fight…let them go. Getting into those arguments only gets the two of you angrier and you lose control of the situation. We learned all of this from counseling, plus more. If you need to talk more, email me…[email protected]
October 1st, 2009 at 2:37 pm
I had an ex who had this problem and the ONLY thing that worked were the meds, sorry to say. I dated him from 14 – 18 and grew up in the relationship. He was three years older and never did. Once he was 18 he didnt need to take it for school and our relationship ended. Like I said, I grew up and he didnt. It really helps for some ppl… it’s not all bad.
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October 1st, 2009 at 3:04 pm
hello i have a fifteen year old that has adhd and he’s been taking cocerta it helps well and mello’s him out he’s been on that for quite a while talk to your family doctor i’m almost willing to bet that they will put him on that
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October 1st, 2009 at 3:26 pm
cousoling helps but if they are acting bad dont cave in and they may stop help them calm down or leave them alone reward them for controling their anger and engcouage the good behavior i have anger problems but now my paents and couseler have helped me resolved them
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October 1st, 2009 at 4:11 pm
am 13 and i had problems i fought to much and
my parents were so upset they decided to take me
to a christian church and now am respectful and you get to learn lots of new things you should take him god bless you and your son
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October 1st, 2009 at 4:46 pm
I’m not an adolescent but am in the same situation with my 14 yr. old stepson…who has ADHD…and anger problems as well.
His ADHD is pretty much controlled with Concerta. He takes 27 mg. once a day. This helps with his attention. He can concentrate on things, that on any normal day, would not have his attention for more than a few minutes. It has helped a little with his behavior in school as well. He still has the little quirks of sticking a pencil in his ear or eye, bouncing his legs and even daydreaming. But they’re fewer times a day since he’s taking medicine. We’ve had problems in school before the medication and he even got expelled for 3 days. He still doesn’t focus like he should but he’s getting there. He goes back to the Dr. next week and she will up his dose to see if that helps.
The anger issue is separate. It’s a puberty thing. Your childs’ hormones are totally out of whack. Their mind is still thinking along that of a child but their body is changing and they have no control over it. My stepson has his anger fits two or three times a day. It drives me crazy! You can control his anger by doing one thing…when he gets angry or wants to argue…just walk away. It irritates the hell out of them because it takes the one thing away that gives them satisfaction. It takes you out of a stressful situation. They can’t argue if you’re not there.
Pick and choose your battles with your child. The ones that you can sense are just going to end up in a senseless fight…let them go. Getting into those arguments only gets the two of you angrier and you lose control of the situation. We learned all of this from counseling, plus more. If you need to talk more, email me…[email protected]
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Mom of 4 & Gramma of 2
October 1st, 2009 at 4:53 pm
I have serious anger issues, and i think it may be from my chihood experiences with my family. I have a very [emotionally] abusive family, so i’m pretty screwed up. I think counseling could be beneficial, just make sure they’re alright with it. Also, find some sort of outlet for the anger like an activity or sport. I love acting, it is how i get away from everything that bothers me
And I personally don’t think it’s okay to act the way i do sometimes, but it’s very hard to control.
good luck, hope i helped!
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I’m 13
October 1st, 2009 at 5:39 pm
my brother has anger problems and my family sent him to a camp for kids with anger problems and ADHD. It really worked, and he came home from that summer a lot better.
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