I used to babysit/nanny a 10 year old with ADD and some serious anger problems, so when I put him in time-out, he would just get up and walk away. I couldn’t really wrestle with him (partly because it borders on physical abuse, partly because he was too big), so how do you get kids to stay in time-out? (Call the parents wasn’t an option; mom was there but terminally ill.)
I just had that problem with my 2 year old. I finally just got down to his level and realized he just needed my attention so talked quietly to him and hugged him and rocked him for a while and now he’s an angel, for now. It’s hard to do that to a 10 year old who’s not your kid. I suggest just telling him you’ll take away a privledge or just talk to him and see why he’s acting out. Maybe he’s acting out for attention. Then tell him if he stays on time out you’ll do something special with him like bake cookies or something. Worse comes to worse just don’t worry about it and tell his guardian when they get home.
How do you keep kids in time-out?
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January 27th, 2010 at 1:23 pm
If they get up, you put them back. Repeat over and over. Time doesn’t start until they sit there and stay.
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January 27th, 2010 at 1:52 pm
Keep guiding them right back to time out, over and over again until they’re finally in time out for the full amount of time that was given.
You could also try other disciplining techniques, such as taking away TV or some other fun things.
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January 27th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
I do not believe in time out so I could not tell you.
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January 27th, 2010 at 2:48 pm
Pick them up and carry him back to his timeout place. If he gets up again, dont talk to him. Just pick him back up, and set him down. He will be so frustrated that you arent getting mad so he will just get up. I also suggest putting him in his room and hold the door closed while he is in there. That way it is impossible to escape.
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January 27th, 2010 at 3:03 pm
consistancy.
make it the point of the next 15 min, or however long you gave the child, to keep taking him beck to time out.
i used to set my kids on the couch, and tell them to stay. i would leave the room and they would move to a different cushion. i would make them move back, and start their time over. they learned real quick, the easiest way, was moms way.
just letting them know you won’t stand for it will help. make him see that even if you turn your back, he still needs to mind you. good luck!
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January 27th, 2010 at 3:21 pm
I like the above answers a lot. Also, my parents used to add time every time I’d get up. If they had to put me back on time out it was another 5 minutes. It usually worked for me.
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January 27th, 2010 at 4:02 pm
I just had that problem with my 2 year old. I finally just got down to his level and realized he just needed my attention so talked quietly to him and hugged him and rocked him for a while and now he’s an angel, for now. It’s hard to do that to a 10 year old who’s not your kid. I suggest just telling him you’ll take away a privledge or just talk to him and see why he’s acting out. Maybe he’s acting out for attention. Then tell him if he stays on time out you’ll do something special with him like bake cookies or something. Worse comes to worse just don’t worry about it and tell his guardian when they get home.
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January 27th, 2010 at 4:26 pm
maybe ask the mom and say is there another way i can punish take something away from he that he likes and just because he has ADD doesnt mean he does not get punished
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