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My Child is Autistic—Where Do I go From Here?

By Carmel L. Mooney

Perhaps no day in a parent’s life is more traumatic and chaotic than the day they first realize or are informed that their child has an Autism Spectrum Disorder.

For my daughter, it was evident to me what was wrong, immediately following her profound vaccine injury. I had no time to grieve or process my feelings when I got the confirmation from medical professionals of what I had feared most. For me it was no real shock to see the diagnosis on paper. I had already witnessed my beautiful, happy, intelligent, affectionate, singing and smiling toddler quickly fall into a dark abyss of anger, frustration, and isolation. I knew what was wrong. But still I was faced with the daunting task of navigating a complex system of professionals and procedures to get the diagnosis I knew she needed in order to best facilitate the care she would require.

What followed were months of sleepless nights of research, phone calls to the best doctors the country had to offer, and long stressful airplane flights around the nation on a quest for solutions. For most parents this period of overwhelming information and searching for answers comes during severe emotional stress, exhaustion, and sleep deprivation. Often well-meaning family, friends and even health professionals are at a loss as to how to support or educate the family in crisis as they wade through reams of information and misinformation trying to find viable options, resources and hope.

Here are some starting points to consider as you will likely be juggling several balls at once as you explore services and therapies for your child, which may include Speech therapy, Occupational therapy, auditory processing therapies, ABA therapy, and more.

Statistically the children with the best outcomes have been treated with the DAN! protocol and DAN! physicians. You will find a list of practicing DAN! physicians and stories of hundreds of children no longer on the spectrum because of successful bio-medical interventions and treatment at www.generationrescue.org.

DAN! (Defeat Autism Now!) is an organization founded by the Autism Research Institute. It is of critical importance to note that DAN! physicians are classically trained medical doctors who apply their training to treat autism spectrum disorders bio-medically using the latest DAN! protocol. Keep in mind that while the number of these doctors is rapidly growing each year it may take three to six months or more to obtain an appointment with some DAN! physicians.

Here is an affordable and do-able action plan to implement while waiting to see a DAN! doctor and for therapies to start:

1. Reduce the toxic load from your home environment. Most autistic children are wrestling with various toxicity issues and are predisposed to magnified ill-effects from environmental toxins, so lower your load at home first. Opt for organic and chemical-free cleansers, fibers, bedding, clothing, and products whenever possible throughout your home.
2. Invest in a balanced multivitamin and mineral supplement. Several companies manufacture specific supplements for children with ASD. Some of the better-known supplements used by DAN! doctors are from Kirkman Labs. They are available without prescriptions.
3. Consider adding cod liver oil to your child’s food or juice. Cod Liver Oil is an excellent source of Vitamin A. Often parents of autistic children find immediate improvements in eye contact and calmness from simply implementing Cod Liver Oil to their child’s diet. Nordic Naturals Orange Flavored Cod Liver Oil is a brand often recommended by doctors for its purity standards.
4. Begin using probiotics. Probiotics provide the stomach with “good” gut flora. One well-know probiotic is Acidophilus, another yet is Bifidum. Most ASD children benefit from daily supplementation with probiotics, particularly the ones with leaky gut or yeast issues.
5. Lipoceutical Glutathione. Glutathione is one of the body’s most potent and vital anti-oxidants. The majority of children with ASD are critically low in Glutathione. Most DAN! Doctors use this as one component of the DAN! Protocol. It is often dispensed in a transdermal cream or as a liquid in a bottle that is well absorbed by the body. You can purchase Lipoceutical Glutathione over-the-counter from Wellness Pharmacy: 1-800-227-2627. A large percentage of parents report immediate improvement after introducing Lipoceutical Glutathione.
6. Find a local physician who is familiar with the Defeat Autism Now! Protocol, and plan out a series of medical tests and treatments.  Some physicians will be open to medical testing and biomedical treatments, but others will not. Search until you find one who is willing to help your child, as opposed to one who wishes only to monitor the severity of your child’s problems. Take your child to a physician who supports you and respects your viewpoint, goals, and objectives.
7. Attend one or more parent support groups.  Parents and caregivers can be a valuable source of support and information.  There are over 200 chapters of the Autism Society of America, over 70 chapters of FEAT, and other informal parent support groups. Consider joining or visiting at least one.

It is important to note that every child is treated differently by a DAN! physician based on that child’s individual medical needs. As Dr. Raj Patel, MD, a DAN! doctor from California states, “Each DAN! practitioner has a slightly different approach. We are working with a syndrome, not a single disease. Five different kids with one label may have different problems underneath.”

The key is to get plugged into a DAN! doctor as quickly as possible so that they can guide you though the treatment plan your individual child requires.

There is something you can do as a newly diagnosed parent of a child with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Research, arm your self with the latest knowledge, and take action.

Carmel L. Mooney
http://www.articlesbase.com/diseases-and-conditions-articles/my-child-is-autisticwhere-do-i-go-from-here-682889.html

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My wife, who we will call Erica, has an anger problem. She gets upset at the smallest things and then she does things that are completely irrational. For example, if I make a comment about how I know she is, she takes most of what I say the wrong way. She takes what I say the wrong way and gets upset about it. (This happens all the time.) When I try to talk to her and let her know that what she is thinking is not what I mean, she doesnt want to give me a chance to explain myself. Erica gets upset and complains about why I am still trying to talk to her but when I respond, she listens to about 5 or 6 words in my sentence and then she starts trying to overtalk me. Then most of the time after that, she asks me what do I want to talk to her about, which is something I have already said but she doesnt want to hear it.

I have an injury that she knows about and she threatens to punch me where my injury is because I wont leave her alone. But when I do leave her alone, she takes 2 or 3 minutes, and then comes back to me asking the same question, "What do you need to talk to me about?" It’s ridiculous.

If I dont try to talk to her, then she tells me that I never ask.
If I try to talk to her about what she took the wrong way, then I am complaining and bugging her.

When we met, she had 2 kids by 2 different men and I didnt prejudge her when we met. I was just thinking, stuff happens. But now we have a child together and another thing she does when she gets upset is tell me that I am a bad father, I am a bad husband, etc. She doesnt work, she spends her time singing in her cousins choir. She doesnt clean, doesnt wash dishes, doesnt clean the house, she may cook once or twice a week, she’s just wasteful. I have never hit her before, I don’t curse at her, I dont try to hold anything bad over her head. She calls me the N word, curses in front of the children. Tells me she hates me infront of the children, etc.

Even when I am wrong, I tell her. Im not trying to get into a battle of who is wrong and who is right. There is a perception that needs to be corrected because it makes me look like something I’m not.

She threatens to call the police to take me to jail because I wont stop talking to her. Then After she calms down, and the next day comes, she wants to kiss and be affectionate. Then she wants things from me. If I am such a bad father, then why do you need me to watch the kids while you go sing somewhere?

By the way, she doesnt want to go to counseling because she doesnt think anything is wrong with her. She always tells me that there is something wrong with me.

She has admitted that she loves all her children more than me because they are always going to be there and love her. Even when im doing right. If I cough the wrong way she may call the police and want to say that I did something to hurt her. ??????

I have gone to counseling by myself, but its not doing anything for Erica. She’s so dramatic.

Someone please help

i love pathetic losers like you who get taken advantage of. less stupid bitchy wh0res for the rest of us to sift through.

We all know that on April 16th, 2007, a new Day That Shall Live in Infamy was tragically born when a 23-year-old South Korean man who had lived in the US since he was eight and was attending a good American university in the state of Virginia shot to death 32 students and faculty before committing suicide. 33 senseless deaths by guns–the worst non-gang related gun incident in modern American history, and a chilling encore to the Columbine High School massacre of 1999 which claimed 13 lives.

Needless to say there have been some very strong reactions among the American citizenry, not to mention the South Koreans who feel a collective sense of guilt (needlessly). The expected calls for stricter regulations and the finger-pointing emerged immediately while relatives, friends, and fellow students grieved for their lost ones.

But who is offering real solutions? Are most people thinking rationally, considering the facts, at this stage? There are 10 myths emerging regarding the Virginia Tech Massacre that need to be closely analyzed, with facts considered, before we end up compounding the tragedy.

Myth #1. Tighter gun control laws would have prevented that massacre.

It happens all the time: someone does something wrong with something and people want the something taken away…from everybody. Does it work for the betterment of society? No.

Consider what we found at Rapid Intelligence’s Factbites. “Germany established gun control in 1938 and from 1939 to 1945, 13 million Jews, gypsies, homosexuals, the mentally ill, and others, who were unable to defend themselves, were rounded up and exterminated….That places total victims who lost their lives because of gun control at approximately 56 million in the last century.” “Gun-control laws have noticeably reduced gun ownership in some states, with the result that for each 1% reduction in gun ownership there was a 3% increase in violent crime…with no academic evidence that gun regulations prevent crime, and plenty of indications that they actually encourage it, we nonetheless are now debating which new gun control laws to pass.”

Myth #2. Virginia’s gun laws are too loose.

Is that so? We found something very interesting when we searched at Factbites. “The fatuity of gun-control laws is nowhere better illustrated than in Virginia, where high-school students in rural areas have a long tradition of going hunting in the morning.” Furthermore, according to the FBI, Virginia’s background check regulations for buying guns are the most rigorous and the best of any of the 50 states.

Myth #3. This is exactly the kind of thing that happens in “gun-toter” states like Virginia.

With all those teenagers in Virginia bearing arms, that’s surely the case, right? Not exactly. Rapid Intelligence’s StateMaster statistics service tells us that Virginia only ranks 25th among states with regards to the number of gun-related deaths per 100,000 people in the state.

Myth #4. The US Constitution’s Second Amendment encourages gun crimes to flourish in America.

At first, there seems to be something to this. Rapid Intelligence’s NationMaster statistics service reveals that the United States ranks fourth among all nations for the most murders committed with guns annually. The US also ranks eighth among all nations in the world for most murders per capita annually with guns.

But in this context, the stats are deceiving–because there is additional information.

According to ‘The Armed Citizen’, “Studies indicate that firearms are used more than two million times a year for personal protection, and that the presence of a firearm, without a shot being fired, prevents crime in many instances. Shooting usually can be justified only where crime constitutes an immediate, imminent threat to life, limb, or, in some cases, property.” Recent instances of this noble use of guns–made available to citizens by the Second Amendment to the US Constitution–include Topeka, Kansas gas station owner Dean Yee using his gun to protect himself against two armed robbers who demanded money from him at gunpoint. Yee shot one robber and that caused the other one to flee. Had Yee not had his concealed weapon permit and his gun, he would very likely have been shot by the robbers–perhaps to death. These instances also include Las Vegas homeowner Raymond Hill, who was awakened in the night by his 12-year-old daughter and told by her that two armed men were breaking into their house. Hill loaded his weapon, called the police, then went downstairs and killed one of the burglars, who was coming into Hill’s house through a window from which he had removed the screen. The other burglar fled on a bicycle, but police nabbed him.

It is most logical to conclude that what the statistics about US gun murders really reveals is that if more Americans took advantage of their Second Amendment rights, violent crime rates would go down–not up.

Myth #5. The US needs to follow the lead of other Western nations like the UK and Australia and make just about every gun illegal to private citizens.

That would at least mostly rid the nation of all the Seung-Hui Cho threats, wouldn’t it? This is what a Factbites search came up with: “Ironically, both [Trent] Lott and Handgun Control acknowledge that the reams of gun control laws on the books in Washington and in all 50 states have been ineffective in eradicating mass shootings or preventing children from bringing weapons to school…Since Australia banned private ownership of most guns in 1996, crime has risen dramatically on that continent, prompting critics of U.S. gun control efforts to issue new warnings of what life in America could be like if Congress ever bans firearms.”

There is also something else to consider. The United States is not even placed among the top 48 nations of the world in terms of police per capita. It is far more logical to conclude that we need more police officers to enforce the laws that are already on the books, not more laws. More police with guns, in fact.

Myth #6. “Mass shootings have come to define our nation”, obviously because of the “easy access to increasingly lethal firearms that make mass killings possible.”

Josh Sugarmann’s irresponsible quote, which he stated as direct reflection on the Virginia Tech massacre, is not only void of statistical evidence, it does not fit the facts as they have been observed. While it’s true that mass shootings began happening more frequently than previously in the US in the 1960s, if such things have “come to define our nation”, then so have car accidents and plane crashes, and that would just have to be because far too many people are privileged to be able to drive or fly. Sugarmann’s quote is toxically emotional.

Turning to a search at Rapid Intelligence’s Factbites reveals the fact is that “Mass shootings essentially disappear in States that pass laws allowing qualified citizens to carry concealed handguns…So, to conclude, the facts are clear–more firearms in the hands of honest, responsible American citizens means the thugs on the streets commit less violent crimes, and the thugs in the government are less likely to assault the citizenry with storm trooper police state tactics of murder and genocide… it is lamentable that 30,000 Americans die yearly from firearms.”

Myth #7. This massacre proves that Americans have too many liberties and need to have their rights curtailed.

Cho was South Korean, not American, although he clearly had assimilated into American culture. Beyond that fact, let’s look at a couple of statistics at NationMaster.

Do you enjoy having the freedom to choose your own lifestyle (provided that you work for what you want)? Most people do. Let’s note that South Korea, the nation from which Cho came originally, is not among the leading nations for offering freedom of lifestyle choice; the US ranks second in the world, just barely behind Finland. In other words, the person who came from the more suppressive culture was the one who abused the freedom of decision making that US citizens enjoy. Another statistic at NationMaster shows forth that the worst mass shooting by an individual in American history was carried out by someone who had a background of significant cultural and economic suppression of freedom compared to what Americans enjoy. And keep in mind, he raged against “rich kids”—those with the privileges that he clearly coveted (and would have been able to enjoy for the rest of his life had he peacefully graduated from the American university he attended). Cho murdered because, in his darkened mind at least, he was prevented from having freedom–not because he had too much of it. While Cho was enjoying a life of upper middle class privilege, he clearly had the suppression and poverty of his boyhood years imprinted on his psyche–he considered himself a “have not” among “haves”.

Myth #8. Cho only did what he did because he was bullied by the privileged American rich kids who surrounded him; it was not really his fault, but the fault of the Americans who bring these things on themselves.

Virginia Tech is a good school, but it is not the Ivy League school that so many Korean parents covet for their children; and the students at Virginia Tech do not come from particularly affluent families. Cho’s parents were the owners of a $400,000 house that Cho grew up in later years; he would have to have been stretching his imagination a long way to believe that he was surrounded by super-wealthy white kids who were somehow unfairly advantaged or keeping him down. Cho had acquaintances among the white American students who went out of their way to try to include him in fun, college-student-type activities. Cho in fact accompanied them sometimes when they went out, and he would drink beer with them and engage in a game of tossing ping-pong balls into glasses of beer; he was apparently quite adept at it, too. But he played the games without expression.

Even before he went to the university, Cho was known to be sullen and quiet among his family. One thing he enjoyed a lot was playing video games–something he had in common with Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris, the pair of killers at the Columbine high school massacre-shooting in 1999 whom Cho cited in his twisted manifesto as one of his inspirations. Cho had no history of being picked on except when he set himself up to be looked at strangely–such as by writing the disgusting plays he wrote for English class, or deliberately reading aloud English literature passes in a dark, guttural accent. Or writing down his name as “?”. Cho was mentally diseased long before he went to Virginia Tech. His outgoing older sister came out just fine–at an Ivy League school called Princeton, where she would have been surrounded by the sons and daughters of millionaires. If Cho had been so abused and scarred by America, then how come she hadn’t?

Myth #9. The gun shops that sold Cho his guns should have known better and should be held legally accountable and perhaps forced to shut down.

The FBI and the Virginia State Police concur that the local gun shop, Roanoke Firearms, acted in full compliance with the state and the federal law. A background check was performed and Seung-Hui Cho was found clean. Although Cho did have mental problems, he was not listed as a possible danger because he had never been involuntarily committed to a mental hospital. When he was taken to a mental ward once, he was only held overnight, did not resist, and was deemed of sound (even if bleak) mind by a professional psychiatrist. This was in spite of the fact that a special justice had, in 2005, found Cho mentally ill.

The other gun shop, which sold Cho one of his weapons via the Internet, was in Green Bay, Wisconsin, and it, too, filled out the right paperwork and did the background check that it was supposed to do.

While it is perfectly reasonable to consider revising the law so that it is more comprehensive (meaning Cho’s visit to the mental ward would have shown up in his record as would his having been found “mentally ill”), it is completely absurd to point a blaming finger at the gun shops. The businesses did exactly what the law says they are to do. Suing them or shutting them down will accomplish nothing except to harm the business owners and their employees.

Myth #10. Poor Seung-Hui Cho was deeply troubled. Somebody should have helped him when he was crying out for help, and then this would never have happened. We brought it on ourselves with our indifferent society.

There is nothing evidential to back up the notion that Cho was deeply troubled by anything other than his own self-centeredness. Cho was not a victim of anything or anyone. In the words of one of his former poetry and creative writing professors, Cho “was just mean”. She goes on to say, “We’re talking about [his being a victim] and crap like that, but troubled youngsters get drunk and jump off buildings; troubled youngsters drink and drive…I’ve taught crazy people…It was the meanness that bothered me…[In his writings] the threats seemed to be underneath the surface.”

If anything, the United States needs to wake up to the realization that there are mean young people out there, full of self-centered anger for no good reason, and they neither need nor want “help”. They need to be straightened out.

The US ranks third in the world in murders committed by young people (ages 15-24). That puts the U.S. in the company of two very violence-and-corruption-prone South American nations and a Russia still struggling its way from the shards of Communism to the building of a free, capitalist-based society. In the light of a lot of Americans’ reactions to the Virginia Tech Massacre, we really need to take a shot of cold reality and wake ourselves up, instead of making ourselves sick with guilt.

Cho was just mean, for whatever twisted reason. Had more people accepted that and acted accordingly, he probably never could have done what he did.

Brant David McLaughlin
http://www.articlesbase.com/news-and-society-articles/the-top-10-myths-about-the-virginia-tech-massacre-138619.html

The thing is, not only are you right about him building up to physically attacking you or the children, but your children are learning everyday from him that blowing up, saying hurtful things, and throwing or hitting things is ok.. and when he does finally snap and attack one of you… the damage will already have been done.. it’s just a matter of how bad.. and hopefully, you won’t lose your life or one of your precious babies.

Your husband has some alarming issues on top of the violence.. and you know it.. him talking about harming "people" or suicidal thoughts adds worry on top of worry..

I know part of you is hanging on to the good times … and part of you just wants your family and your children to be together.. but honey, you have to put your and your babies safety first.

You know what you have to do.. you’re standing on the line.. you just have to put one foot over and do what needs to be done.

If he is sincere, he will continue counseling and over time you will see a change in the way he deals with his issues.. he seriously needs help in many different directions.. but, you can’t bet your children’s lives on the probability that he may change.