I need help with my anger problems. I am 14 years old. I get mad for any little thing. I will sometimes lash out in either tantrums or in violent threats to those around me. I need help, but without taking medication.
Sing christmas carols aloud; I can’t imagine how one can keep up being pissed and singing at the same time 
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Perhaps you need to find something that both diverts and relaxes your mind. Get away from the object of annoyance, and take a walk. Once you have given yourself ample time and space, you will cease to be angry (at least to a more controlled extent).
P:S – I don’t think you are a brat; it’s nice that you are seeking improvement.
October 1st, 2009 at 2:35 pm
roll around on the floor
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October 1st, 2009 at 2:43 pm
pause and relax realize how stupid you look yelling and throwing a tantrum
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October 1st, 2009 at 2:55 pm
ur a spoiled brat
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October 1st, 2009 at 3:17 pm
oh. im 15 and i actually have the same problem. honestly dont do anything about it. for one people will think your to crazy to bother and second they get you trips to the office and you dont get in trouble because you cant help it
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October 1st, 2009 at 3:26 pm
i have same prob like today i didnt make volleyball team i throw chair at coach smashing stuff usally helps
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October 1st, 2009 at 3:51 pm
stop being a jerk? smoke some pot it will mellow you out
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October 1st, 2009 at 4:26 pm
get a girlfriend
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October 1st, 2009 at 4:33 pm
two words: anger management?
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October 1st, 2009 at 4:50 pm
try finding a shrink or just a good friend and talk to them about it
( dont kill them)
lol
ummmm
and find an outlet like a sport, guitar, video games. anything
and when you start to get mad button it and count to 10
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October 1st, 2009 at 5:01 pm
To be honest I had the exact same problem when I was your age and I think your getting this because of video games. If your playing war/fighting games for long periods of times that is probably why. When you get angry take a deep breath and think about what your about to say and who your saying it to
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October 1st, 2009 at 5:24 pm
Plan, expect the unespected and prepare yourself with a positive reaction well in advance. It will be hard for a 14 year old since you will have to continually to learn discipline yourself. Rmember there can almost always be a postive response to any given situation.(Humor)
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October 1st, 2009 at 6:08 pm
first you need to write down all the things going on in your life that could make you have anger,Then see if from that you can tell what may need to change ,I agree with you about the medicine I take meds and I hate them and to be honest it don’t always fix the problem .Search deep inside and find the reasons you become angry .I do truly wish you the best of luck and sorry I am not a pro but I have done this and found it helpful..
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October 1st, 2009 at 6:23 pm
jesus. just smoke some pot.
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October 1st, 2009 at 6:31 pm
anger management classes
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October 1st, 2009 at 7:12 pm
you should go in a room all by your self no one around. yell go get your self a punching bag, literally say what eve-rs on your mind because that pride issue is just strait up pushing out so do it when your alon not around people then as you go in the room try to come your self as much as possible more and more but when you come back out you might still fill the same way but fight it and if you really want to get ride of it fight your self to not get an attitude and submit and say something nice that will help you allot always do the opposite !!!!!! God bless
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October 1st, 2009 at 7:32 pm
dude you are a brat who thinks your all tough
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October 1st, 2009 at 7:39 pm
Sing christmas carols aloud; I can’t imagine how one can keep up being pissed and singing at the same time
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Perhaps you need to find something that both diverts and relaxes your mind. Get away from the object of annoyance, and take a walk. Once you have given yourself ample time and space, you will cease to be angry (at least to a more controlled extent).
P:S – I don’t think you are a brat; it’s nice that you are seeking improvement.
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October 1st, 2009 at 7:59 pm
Anger is a coping mechanism you adopted to deflect painful emotions. When someone triggers hurt and pain in a very specific way your automatic driver takes you down the anger road. It’s a pattern or template that has been kicked into gear so many times that it just blasts off without will. This pattern/template was designed when you were little and has been perfected over the years. You can over-write the old template and make a new one. The next time you feel the anger is going to happen think about the emotion you felt just before it. Was it abandonment, injustice, physical pain, fear, abuse, and particular age and situation were you in when it happened? Now that you know where the original feeling started you can differentiate between now and then.
You are safe now and you can change how you react because you are not 5 years old anymore. You are a young person of 14 and much more capable of speaking for yourself than you were at 5 or 7 years old.
When you feel that same ugly hurt and pain you can stop and know that you are about to use the anger template and do something else instead.
Write a script and say it instead.
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