Anger Problems ?

my mother has an anger problem and I don’t know what to do.

Here are the types of anger and a short description of what they are.

Behavioral Anger – This type of anger is comprised of aggressive and cruel actions such as physical violence, verbal abuse, biased or vulgar jokes, breaking a confidence, using foul language, ignoring people’s feelings, willfully discriminating, blaming, punishing people for unwarranted deeds, labeling others, frightening people by saying how you could harm them, their property or their prospects, finger pointing, fist shaking, wearing clothes or symbols associated with violent behavior, tailgating, excessively blowing a car horn, slamming doors.

Passive Anger – Passive anger is shown mostly through mockery, or through avoiding a certain instance, secretive behavior such as stockpiling resentments, manipulation such as provoking people to aggression and then patronizing them, dispassion such as giving the cold shoulder or phony smiles, looking cool, sitting on the fence while others sort things out.

Self-inflicted anger – This type of anger is the one that is directed toward a person’s own body.

Chronic anger – People with chronic anger are just angry in general.

Judgmental anger – This type of anger would lead somebody to hurtfully shame the people around him, like his family, friends and neighbors.

Volatile Anger – This type of anger is the one that easily comes and goes such as explosive rages over minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing unjust punishment, inflicting harm on others for the sake of it, using alcohol and drugs, illogical arguments.

Retaliatory anger – Usually people get angry because other people are angry at them. Actions include such as being over-punitive, refusing to forgive and forget, bringing up hurtful memories from the past.

Deliberate Anger – This type of anger is shown by people who would like to gain control over a situation such as showing off, expressing mistrust, not delegating, being a poor loser, wanting center stage all the time, not listening, talking over people’s heads, expecting kiss and make-up sessions to solve problems.

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can’t get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions by being forgiving, taking an occasional walk, exercising, relaxation techniques etc.

If we practice the patience of voluntarily accepting suffering, we can maintain a peaceful mind even when experiencing suffering and pain. If we maintain this peaceful and positive state of mind through the force of mindfulness, unhappy minds will have no opportunity to arise. On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to dwell on unhappy thoughts there will be no way for us to prevent anger from arising.

For many people anger is a disruptive force that controlling can be very difficult. It helps to know that there are a a number of herbal and homeopathic ingredients which have been shown to greatly help with the control and management of anger outbursts, fits, and rage. Nux vom. is one such ingredient and it is commonly recommended to people who are prone to irritability, and anger and those with impatient tempers.

Another useful homeopathic ingredient is Chamomilla which is particularly effective when the emotional reaction seems out of proportion to the situation or event. This ingredient is wonderfully calming and can be used to soothe anger and irritability as well as any underlying anxiety . Lastly, Lycopodium can be used to address uncontrollable anger outbursts and is especially useful for those who find it difficult to express their emotions.

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