i get angry really easily, and can get really wound up. i get extreme – have been close to throwing a glass before, have threatened my brother with a knife before (but probably wouldn’t have the guts to actually hurt him coz my b@stard of a dad would kill me) and i end up cutting myself to relieve this anger. punching pillows doesn’t work – they’re too soft. does anyone know how i can make something like…a thing full of sand, that would be really strong that i could punch? or something strong i could throw against the wall without it breaking? or where i can buy something like this in the uk? or any other successful anger management techniques?
shanedolman – i’m a girl not a guy!
You can make the stress relieving balls out of sand and balloons. You simply have to fill balloons with sand and get all of the air of the balloon before tieing it. They really work.
Plus, have you thought about seeking professional help?
October 7th, 2009 at 2:59 pm
Yeah — Goto a doctor!!
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October 7th, 2009 at 3:27 pm
I would suggest go and see a counselor. They can help. I have seen one before about this issue. I had a bad anger, I broke a glass window well I mean glass sliding door.
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October 7th, 2009 at 3:57 pm
try some outpatient counseling for a bit. it worked for me.
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October 7th, 2009 at 4:23 pm
sort ya self out, stupid the way your behaving, time to be a man.
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October 7th, 2009 at 4:32 pm
You can make the stress relieving balls out of sand and balloons. You simply have to fill balloons with sand and get all of the air of the balloon before tieing it. They really work.
Plus, have you thought about seeking professional help?
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October 7th, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Go to your Doctor who may be able to refer you to a counsellor or provide medication. It is rather concerning that the only reason that you PROBABLY wouldn’t knife your brother is that your dad would hurt you.
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October 7th, 2009 at 5:07 pm
You need proper counselling. The techniques you are thinking about will simply re-direct your violent feelings. What you need is help to control or get rid of your physical aggressiveness.
See your doctor for a referal, but be prepared for a long wait.
In the meantime, you could make sure you are getting a well balanced diet, drinking plenty of water, and getting enough sleep. A lack of any of these will have a damaging affect on your emotions.
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October 7th, 2009 at 5:41 pm
You need help brother!! Talk to your GP if he’s approachable. If not then look in the phone book for helplines, talk to some one who knows what they are doing, Just because you haven’t hurt someone yet doesn’t mean you won’t. At some point in your life something will take you over the edge and you may damage more than your own life, try and sort it out while it’s only a worry and not a major problem that can destroy you and those around you.
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October 7th, 2009 at 6:29 pm
You took the first step Hun
You admitted you had a problem
Im a counselor for abused women and also counsel the men who abuse them
Most men can NEVER accept responsiblity. They want to always say "She drove me to it"
Once you get past that point, as YOU HAVE…..you have already taken a HUGE STEP!!!!
GOOD FOR YOU!!!! Keep on truckin, Hun! Dont stop now…..Dont clam up now. Keep those emotions out and TALK TALK TALK! If you can TALK to the one who bothers you the way you are talking HERE, your biggest problem is solved..if not, then keep talkin on paper, in a journal, etc. ….OK? good LUCK!!!!
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October 7th, 2009 at 6:42 pm
You answered your own question in the title. You need Anger Management assistance. Go see a psychologist. There is no shame in getting help from a professional. Get over any fears of seeing one, or your life will just continue to irritate you and your loved ones. It could keep you out of trouble with the law too. Seriously, call a doctor.
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October 7th, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Anger is directly proportional to one’s emotional maturity.People with low self-esteem become more angrier even for small things.Anger can lead to heart attack,stroke,etc.So be careful.Leave the place where you got angered.Drink water.Breathe deeply.Be calm.Anger can lead to murder also.So better watch out.If you dont listen to my advice,I will be very angry with you and bang my head against the wall for giving you an advice.
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October 7th, 2009 at 7:18 pm
Meditation helps getting over anger
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October 7th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Usually anger is just a result of a deeper problem – so try and go to the source of the problem; it could be depression, it could be anxiety, stress, anything. I know my cousin used to cut herself because that was the only way she could express her anger, but then she went to a psychiatrist and was put on medication to level out her seratonin levels. She also did a lot more art, and if she was feeling angry then it would show up in the picture. So try a creative outlet like paitning, writing, whatever.
Or just try finding a friend or someone you can chat about anything with, because my cousin found that to be helpful. But you need to find something before someone gets hurt, because if you have to vent physically then you are never going to get over it, instead it will fester and you will grow up to be a very abusive person.
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October 7th, 2009 at 8:17 pm
You are trying so hard to help yourself, that is very good! It is great that your thinking of ways to channel your anger. Try and go for a run or a bike ride? Get yourself into an exercise program and let your anger out that way….
Writing down how mad your feeling might help too? Get out of the environment that had made you mad in the first place, step away for a moment and get a change of scenery. Sometimes that can help too.
Taken your anger out on yourself is not the best way to cope, and i am sure you are aware of that.
Get into therapy too, and possibly medication to help with the outbursts.
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October 7th, 2009 at 8:41 pm
You got to change your attitude.
Your attitude is the person the world sees when looking at you.
Your attitude determines what you wear, what you say, how you say it, and everything..
To change your attitude you have to change what you believe in.
about anger. Anger is part of a response to trauma. So it could be that the event leading up to the anger outburst is seen as traumatic to you.
A lot of this is coming from your brain, as the event unfolds you getting messages very quickly, that makes you think it is traumatic so you get angry. (By the time some one has spoken 50 words you could have thought 600)
All these conception messages are based on what you believe in.
Start analysing your beliefs, kick them out and replace with trust and respect. Learn to focus on the issue and not the person.
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