She gets so angry when she cannot accomplish something. I am teaching her how to write letters and numbers and when she cannot do it the first time she gets so angry. I have explained to her that nothing is perfect your first time and that she is still learning, but her expectations for herself are so high. I do positive reinforcement when she tries, but it doesnt seem to help.
There are times she gets so angry I think she should be in anger management for children. She doesnt hit or throw things (thank the lord) but I need suggestions.
as long as she’s not harming herself or others (throwing things,hitting,etc) then I would just try to let her vent it out on her own.
maybe the next time you’re teaching her how to write (my 5 year old daughter is the same way-just started school) and she gets frustrated, tell her that you are going to take a break from it until she calms down. this might upset her even more (my daughter has cried) but stick with it. eventually, she will learn to calm herself and focus. my daughter learned that she accomplished more when she was calm and paid attention.
take a walk, read a book, or have a small snack then try to go back and finish the project. this helps alot and gives her the downtime she needs to calm down.
little ones are so ambitious. they want to succeed so bad and it's frustrating for us parents sometimes b/c we want to help them!!
hope this helps you
February 25th, 2010 at 5:25 am
Well i think that she should know that it is not right and tell her stories from when you where trying something and it took you a few tries to get it right too. That way she knows its not just her.
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February 25th, 2010 at 5:49 am
as long as she’s not harming herself or others (throwing things,hitting,etc) then I would just try to let her vent it out on her own.
maybe the next time you’re teaching her how to write (my 5 year old daughter is the same way-just started school) and she gets frustrated, tell her that you are going to take a break from it until she calms down. this might upset her even more (my daughter has cried) but stick with it. eventually, she will learn to calm herself and focus. my daughter learned that she accomplished more when she was calm and paid attention.
take a walk, read a book, or have a small snack then try to go back and finish the project. this helps alot and gives her the downtime she needs to calm down.
little ones are so ambitious. they want to succeed so bad and it’s frustrating for us parents sometimes b/c we want to help them!!
hope this helps you
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mommy of 3
February 25th, 2010 at 6:27 am
While I applaud you for being a pro-active and educationally aware parent I think you might want to let teaching her to write go until she’s 5 or 5 and a half.
My daughter was the same way and she just wasn’t ready to learn that stuff yet. I set it aside for about 6 months and then she was much better.
help her master pre-schools skills first sorting, shapes, colors, resighting her address and phone number. If she’s in a pre-school talk to her teacher about helpful activities to do at home. If she’s not in preschool I would suggest signing her up.
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February 25th, 2010 at 7:02 am
I’m not sure how this will work for your little one, but you could try to point out times when you are frustrated…and let your daughter see that, and the positive way you deal with it. She might need to learn the tools of coping and this might be an easy way to help her along. Can you identify some thing you might struggle with that she would be around to see?
My daughter is 5 and has the same issues with writing. Her reaction is different, she tries to quit. We have purchased all sorts of tools to increase her fine motor skill. Things like putty, playdough, beads, and a large drawing/writing board are all supposed to give the fine motor skills a work out. It might give her more confidence when holding the pencil/crayon for drawing.
I also use a highlighter and make the letter/number for her to trace, a little easier to work with to help establish the correct form of the letter. They can track there process with a little less worry over the detail.
Good luck, I know how frutstrating this can be!!!
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