Anger Problems ?

She gets so angry when she cannot accomplish something. I am teaching her how to write letters and numbers and when she cannot do it the first time she gets so angry. I have explained to her that nothing is perfect your first time and that she is still learning, but her expectations for herself are so high. I do positive reinforcement when she tries, but it doesnt seem to help.

There are times she gets so angry I think she should be in anger management for children. She doesnt hit or throw things (thank the lord) but I need suggestions.

as long as she’s not harming herself or others (throwing things,hitting,etc) then I would just try to let her vent it out on her own.

maybe the next time you’re teaching her how to write (my 5 year old daughter is the same way-just started school) and she gets frustrated, tell her that you are going to take a break from it until she calms down. this might upset her even more (my daughter has cried) but stick with it. eventually, she will learn to calm herself and focus. my daughter learned that she accomplished more when she was calm and paid attention.

take a walk, read a book, or have a small snack then try to go back and finish the project. this helps alot and gives her the downtime she needs to calm down.

little ones are so ambitious. they want to succeed so bad and it's frustrating for us parents sometimes b/c we want to help them!!

hope this helps you

how common this is? how people do this? and how they are or seem to others DURING usually?

and how many people have "unresovled anger" from their past? how it affects them and their attitude and state of mind?

can repressed anger even cause mental problems as well as disease such as cancer?

please explain how asian societies view this subject too if you know

how they "release" this tension in safe, constructive way?

thanks for your answers!

It often relates to courses like this: "Anger Management."http://www.thinkrightnow.com/audios/anger-management.asp

what are some good ways to control your anger, especially in relationship situations. i tend to have a very short fuse and i would like to be able to control it better….

Take it out on someone in the bedroom

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LOL, seriously whenever I am pissed I go running. I seriously love running and it’s a good stress reliever. Just exercise your @ss off!

Never punch a wall or anything like that, cause once you do that it’sll hurt your hand and then you’ll be pissed cause you hurt your hand and wanna punch the wall again for it hurting you. It’s a vicious cycle dammit

My fiance has anger problems. He gets so mad sometimes that he says things I know he doesn’t mean. He always comes to me later in the day and tells me he is sorry and didn’t mean what he said, but then does it again. What should I do? I love him and know he is stressed out, but I think that his behavior is very inapproraite. Is there anything I can do to help him overcome this? Has anyone been with a man who gets so upset he says things he doesn’t mean?
He does recognize his anger, after his outbursts, that’s why I haven’t left him. It’s obviously a problem he is having, one he needs help with. I don’t believe in leaving someone when they are down. I am a very strong person and his behavior isn’t effecting me yet.

Yes, I have been there. You have to let him know that you will no longer tolerate it. Tell him either he control his anger or you will not marry him and you will move on. You have to be very strong and stick to what you say. Tell him you want him to take anger management before you marry him. Chances are he like the reaction he gets. Do you start to cry or get upset like him? You should play it cool, when you see the situation getting heated. Then, tell him we can discuss this further when you can control yourself. Then totally ignore him and take a shower or start reading a book. I start doing this and my boyfriend would feel like such an idiot til he started trying to play it cool like me which what you want right. Also, pick and choose your battle. If he still overreacts, you may need to end this relationship because its unhealthy. If he loves you he will be willing to make a change.