Anger Problems ?

I used to babysit/nanny a 10 year old with ADD and some serious anger problems, so when I put him in time-out, he would just get up and walk away. I couldn’t really wrestle with him (partly because it borders on physical abuse, partly because he was too big), so how do you get kids to stay in time-out? (Call the parents wasn’t an option; mom was there but terminally ill.)

I just had that problem with my 2 year old. I finally just got down to his level and realized he just needed my attention so talked quietly to him and hugged him and rocked him for a while and now he’s an angel, for now. It’s hard to do that to a 10 year old who’s not your kid. I suggest just telling him you’ll take away a privledge or just talk to him and see why he’s acting out. Maybe he’s acting out for attention. Then tell him if he stays on time out you’ll do something special with him like bake cookies or something. Worse comes to worse just don’t worry about it and tell his guardian when they get home.

I black out when extremely mad. I KNOW I have an anger issue, but my parents don’t believe me. What should I do?

I also believe in Medition and Yoga. They really mellow you out.

my 4yo son has recently become very angry about everything. it began when my brother moved into our basement suite. my brother has anger management issues.

today my son asked me what he can do when he’s angry. i told him that he could punch his punching bag in his closet. (don’t worry, he knows that it’s not ok to hit other ppl or the walls or anything)

what are some other things i can tell him to do to calm him down when he’s angry?

when my son is mad he yells then cries so i just hold him and try to calm him down•

I can find lots of books about anger management for people who experience attacks of rage and can’t control their anger, but that’s not what I’m looking for.

My problem is that I was taught that it was wrong to be angry and as my parents never argued I’ve never had a natural model to base my behaviour on. Instead I tend to repress and internalise my anger, which in turn comes out as self-anger and depression, or with others I nag/criticise them and/or turn passive-aggressive.

I would therefore really like a self help book that explains about this and which teaches about appropriate ways of expressing anger and approaching conflict.

Thank you!

The first step in any self help is understanding who you are. Read " Conversations with God ". It is not about religion or faith and it will help you understand anger and other things.