Anger Problems ?

Both my parents think that i have anger problems. I have trouble with controlling my emotions especially when it come to handelling stress.
I’m 13 and they think that i should consider councilling or calling kids help line.Although i really don’t think this is going to help. They dont see that its them that makes me really angry.They don’t see how caged in i feel in this house.We always have massive arguments about this that last weeks.These fights always end up with me throwing things at them. I cant help doing this, its just a way to get my anger out.
I hate it as it happens almost everyday. Everyday i’m always crying and i’m not even allowed to go out and take a walk to get it all out of me. My parents are WAY overprotective and i feel as if theyre always taking my sisters sides and that they love them more than me.
My anger problems are ruining the realtionship between us, but its something i cant control. I don’t belive that counciling will not help. Is there any suggestions?

It’s too bad you have no self-control, because you will end up in a mental hospital or prison if you keep having tiraids. I would say you need to get a jounal and everyday write in it at least one thing you can be thankful for. You won’t have your parents forever and you will miss them when they are gone. Right now you can be thankful that they are providing a place for you to live, with clothes to wear and food to eat. Don’t take everything for granted. It cost a lot of money to have a home. Be part of your family, help out around the house. Don’t make your mother have to carry your load too! Maybe you are hanging around with the wrong crowd, listening to others gripe about their parents. You need to find a Church with a good youth group and get involved. God put you in the home you are in for a reason. Get to know his son Jesus and find out why you are here, he has a plan for your life. Try Him.

My sister has really bad anxiety. She cannot go anywhere by herself. If she does, she freaks out and feels lost or suffercated. she is depressed and has an anger problem as well but doesn’t want to just take meds for it! is there any sites that can teach her to control these things? thank you for your help!

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On a cultural level, most social conditioning, focuses on either repressing desires or permitting only a certain strain of desires. All this results in distorted desires and completely maladaptive emotions like fear, shame, and guilt.

As an organism advances in intelligence, so, too, does its desires. There are the basic desires of the body for food, clothing, shelter, sex, and social relationships. Then at a mental level, there are desires for more knowledge, creating art, appreciating music, and so on. Then on an emotional level, there are desires for love, friendship, and happiness. Finally, on a spiritual level, there is the desire for discovering the meaning of life and exploring the possibility of a higher consciousness.

It is the expression of all these desires that have created civilization as we know it today, and as these desires are allowed to expand, we will start to create even more refined and sophisticated expressions of ourselves.

However, the outflow and expression of these desires are often resisted, which results in a distorted view of things, conflicting and agitating emotions, and behavioral outbursts that are destructive.

What life seeks to do is express itself through desires. What various societies since the beginning of time appear to be doing is working to manipulate and control individual self-expression in favor of a collective agenda. This results in resistance to the natural expression of desire, and these distortions create psychological aberrations, both mental and emotional.

It has never been the desire of humanity to destroy itself, but because of the distortion of desires, this force has magnified to such an extent that the possibility now exists.

On an extreme scale, this amalgamation of repressed desires, has resulted in individuals choosing suicide and homicide and cultures choosing some form of genocide. This is not how nature intended desire to be used; it is an aberration of desire, where desire turns in on itself and becomes destructive.

When the life force is resisted it becomes anti-life.

A fallacy has often been spread by teachers and students of Eastern religions that desire is something to be repressed if one hopes to advance on the spiritual path. In Western religions, the tendency has been to try and channel the desires into certain chosen ideals.

Apart from the obvious point that it is itself a desire to be spiritually aware, this idea of repressing or selecting only favorable desires appears to have many other illogical features.

While it is possibly true that our attachments and aversions, the desire for things and the desire to avoid things, can cloud our vision of cosmic meaning and distract us from the purpose of probing our inner understanding of life, it is not true that desire itself is our enemy.

Everything that exists desires something because this is it’s expansive drive. The instinct of a primitive life form, like an amoeba, is desire. As life forms become more advanced, desires, too, multiply. In all animals, every animal has a strong desire to preserve itself. In human beings, a completely new hierarchy begins, and desires range from basic biological necessities to self-actualization.

There is a vital force in all of consciousness to express itself in a larger way, an expansive force, that over time evolves species. The consciousness behind life is seeking to express itself in larger ways through life forms.

In human beings desires that have been thwarted result in all sorts of aberrations, like apathy, grief, fear, lust, anger, and pride.

All these are, in fact, expressions of desires that have not been allowed to run their full course. They are desires that have been inhibited by individual and collective forces of will.

In fact, one can even offer an argument that all psychological and sociological problems arise from distorted desires, desires that have turned in on themselves like ingrown toenails.

Saleem Rana
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If you have a relationship where you truly trust each other no matter what happens, then you have a powerful and wonderful relationship which can last forever. It is difficult building trust in relationships with all the temptations out there, and this is what makes trust so fragile in the first place. When a partner feels that his/her trust has been betrayed, it can mean the end of the relationship altogether. Restoring trust is a mountainous job, and more often than not the betrayed partner will always have the memory in the back of their mind and the niggling question of whether you will break their trust again.

What if you have cheated on Your Partner? Can you get Him /her back?

In most cases people will tell you that an affair with someone else means the end of the relationship and break ups but this is not always the case.  Partners in a relationship can have affairs for different reasons. The affair or lustful sexual encounter can have been in a moment of drunken madness, because of strong attraction to someone at work, or because of pressures at work. Does not matter though, you have betrayed your partners trust and the damage is done.  It could have been something lacking in the relationship which caused your partner to cheat. This is something that should be thought about as well. If both partners love each other you can still save the relationship but it is going to be very hard work for the cheating partner. It can take months, and even years building trust in relationships and in one fell swoop an affair can destroy it!

Building trust in relationships requires an adjustment in attitude and actions for both partners in the relationship and after an affair it is going to be hard work rebuilding trust again. Even after one of the partners have had an affair, it is still possible to save a relationship, and if you truly love each other rather try to than throw many happy years together down the drain. 

Building trust in relationships through open communication.

Communication is the most important building block to any relationship, not love, not sex like you may think. Sure these are all important building blocks of any relationship but communication tops the list. Can you openly communicate with the person you love if something is troubling you? Are you suspicious and digging behind your partners back into their personal effects because you think they may be having an affair. If you can openly discuss what is troubling you, then you have great trust and communication with your partner. Building trust in relationships comes from having honest open communication at all times. Talk to your partner about anything and everything and they in turn must also never be afraid to approach you. That is real trust in relationships.

Sort out your differences and problems and build trust 

If there are characteristics or things that bother you about your partner you should be able to discuss them. By leaving them bottled up inside, they begin to fester and one day in a moment of anger things may be said and your relationship could even end up in tatters. Building trust in relationships means fixing the underlying problems through openly communicating with each other about them.  Sometimes that means going in to couples counseling if you cannot find solutions yourselves. The real secret to building trust in relationships lies not in talking about the right things, but in taking action in doing the right things, and sorting out problems and overcoming obstacles.

The little things you can be trusted with

One of the biggest things you can do in building trust in relationships is to make small promises and keep them.  If you promise to take the garbage each evening, then make sure to do it and do it consistently as well. When you demonstrate that you can be trusted by always doing the little things, your partner will start realizing that you can be trusted with the bigger things in your relationship as well. Do things together and learn to trust each other through keeping the lines of communication open. When your relationship is experiencing problems and you need help to restore your faith and trust seek guidance and counseling. There are excellent guides available on the market that can help you build save and nurture relationships which in today’s modern society are very precious.

Richard C
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/buildfing-up-trust-in-relationships-719915.html