Anger Problems ?

the scene where Buddy has this guy laying around hitting a pillow and throwing a temper tantrum like a child..is this kind of thing real?

why is this said to be good? and is this like an age regression?

how is it said that person is to get into that state of mind again? how they get them feeling angry again?

and how , when, why they come out again of this state?

also, is there a old psychological name for this type of thing?

please explain and describe

thanks for your answers!

I don’t know the movie, but what you describe is definitely real.

The ‘old psychological name’ is "catharsis".

Some people say it’s good because they believe that "letting the anger out" on an inanimate object,such as a pillow, expresses harmlessly a feeling that has previously been suppressed, and that suppressed feelings are harmful.

People get to feel angry again because they have thwarted desires. I believe that working up anger (even at a pillow) puts harmful thoughts into one’s mind and into the world and does not benefit anyone. Sure, it is better to beat a pillow than your wife, so if you are already feeling angry right now, go beat a pillow yes. But to stir dormant anger? What for? Anger is genuinely countered by opposing good qualities like love, peacefulness, calmness, gentleness, patience, non-attachment (to desires, and to "I") and kindness….. aikido. And by developing your non-angry powerfulness – e.g. self-esteem, gently-but-firmly assertiveness, "won’t power" (how to say ‘no’ without saying ‘f*** off’), saying how you feel without making the other person wrong (as in ‘when you …. I felt upset’ rather than ‘you hurt me’).

and is this the main cause of "mental problems" later?

which other types of problems can this cause, physically as well?

please explain and describe

and is there anger often times "Suppressed" rather than "Repressed"??

how come and how is this different or affects them different?

is suppression of their natural feelings or emotions like similar to "brain washing" someone?

please explain if so and how common in child abuse cases

thanks for your answers!

Whilst anger is a big problem for a lot of people, mainly because it’s the least socially accepted emotion, I think it’s very hard to say it’s the cause of mental health problems.

There are so many things that happen to people on a daily basis that weave a rich tapestry ultimately creating an individual that to try and narrow it down to repressed anger is kinda missing the point. What, for example, makes that person repress their anger?

Sometimes it’s because anger isn’t accepted or tolerated well. Sometimes it’s because people aren’t taught as a child how to express anger appropriately, sometimes a child learns than when they do show anger their caregiver rejects them. There are a thousand and one reasons why people supress their anger.

What physical problems can anger cause; raised heart rate, raised blood pressure, stroke, cardiac problems, digestive problems. Look up Type A personalities and related health conditions for further information.

The following links are extremely helpful.

http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html
http://www.angermgmt.com/
http://www.angriesout.com/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger_management
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArbTL9xZQAuRzaT9R8owswwjzKIX?qid=20070317040643AAlCp31

I have someone living here, but I’m beginning to feel exhausted & used. I moved to recover from an abusive past, but ended up housing a young homeless man who was also abused. I often feel like his mother, perhaps because my own son was in Iraq.

He has been great company, fun to be around, and helpful at times. I have grown fond of him. But he doesn’t work, which is straining my small income. It feels like he is hiding. He has no car and there is no work available within a 30 mile radius. I encouraged him to go to online school, which failed when his laptop broke down.

There are more problems, like knowing he has lied and dealing with his anger. It is hard to express everything. I think he needs me. I understand his abuse and long to help, but wonder if I can. I’ve been unable to confront him, fearing his reaction, due to my abuse. He has no where to go & no direction. I fear for him if he leaves, but wonder how to deal with things if he stays.

I need to overcome this fear.

I totally understand.

It’s really important for you to feel comfortable in your own home though…

It’s only fair to lay down ground rules and let him know that he is a GUEST in your home and he needs to shape up.

If he doesn’t listen… then yes, you are totally being taken advantage of…

If he doesn’t listen, he’s out…
Just because you feel bad for him does NOT mean he’s your responsibility now…

Good luck and God bless…